“A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.” Aesop, Fables
It makes perfect sense: those who are proficient at handling stress in their everyday lives are more likely to better handle the potential stress of building a new home. And, even under the best of circumstances, building a home may be filled with potential stressors. One of the primary reasons for this is that those who like to be in full control of their lives may have to learn to be comfortable with some uncertainties. The homebuilding experience is exciting, though – and there’s no reason not to have fun with it. You are in the hands of experts. They’ll do the work for you. Embrace it, enjoy it!
Communication is Key (Put it in Writing):
Since it is your house that is being built, it is important to know what you want and to be able to communicate that with others. One of the things that is recommended is to keep an ongoing journal of all things related to your plans and homebuilding experiences. Keep track of who you have spoken to, what you have discussed, future topics to discuss, future appointments, etc. Date the entries. Keep all documents and emails in appropriate computer and physical files. Even if you have a great memory, a journal is recommended so that you will have all the information at hand. You will empower yourself and reduce potential stress by maximizing your participation in the process.
Building a house may increase stress with your spouse, partner, children and/or other relatives and friends, whether they are directly involved in the building process or not. It is not natural for everyone to agree on everything! Stress may result simply because of varying viewpoints – there is no right answer per se to any situation when there are choices. We make choices based on all the variables that have gone into formulating our outlook in life, from childhood until present day. What is helpful is to create a simple plan on how you are going to resolve differing issues. It is healthy to be able to express yourself and not to repress or stuff your feelings. Again, communication is key. Of course there will be differences. Communication and dealing with stress are life skills that can always be improved.
What are Some of the Possible Stresses of Building a New Home or Backyard Cottage?
Let’s face it: for most of us, building and/or buying a home is one of the largest – or the largest – projects we may undertake in our lives. It can certainly be one of the most exciting. It is often the most expensive, long term investment we will make. Just the thought of spending thousands or hundreds of thousands of dollars can shake us to our core. So, of course, stress is an entirely normal and natural reaction, especially for a first-time builder who is new to the process.
Dealing With Stress:
A positive way to deal with stress is to learn and practice basic stress management skills. For many this may include exercising, jogging, walks, engaging in a hobby, practicing basic relaxation and meditation techniques, or doing whatever helps you relax. Another positive approach is to know from the onset that you are likely to face challenging experiences and to simply let them be. “What comes, let it come, what goes, let it go.” This does not mean that you give up your voice in your particular home building situation – quite the contrary. You simply learn to express yourself – and listen – from a more centered, powerful inner posture.
Home Building Takes Us Out of Our Normal Comfort Zone:
Building a home will tend to take us out of our normal comfort zone. We may be dealing with bankers, lawyers, lenders, financial institutions, architects, contractors, planners, designers, permit and zoning departments and others. One of the advantages of working with New Avenue Homes is that we work with you throughout the entire homebuilding process. And we have streamlined and simplified the process as much as possible. We work with many of the great architects and home builders in the country. We are familiar with all the aspects of building a new home, from conception to completion.