Is it a House or a Home?
A happy home is the single spot of rest which a man has upon this earth for the cultivation of his noblest sensibilities. (Frederick William Robertson, Sermons Preached at Trinity Chapel, Brighton)
One of life’s lessons is that there are many differences between a house and a home. We have come to understand that a house refers to the building or in our case buildings – the actual property and physical structure with floors, walls, ceilings and rooms. But a home is so much more than a house. A “home” infers feelings – safety, familiarity, comfort, intimacy, emotional connection, attachment, history and memories. It often infers family roots and background. History shows us that it was common – and often expected – for families to take root and live their entire lives in one home. This is because realty is permanent in nature. This is also why it is called real property – property that is permanently adhered to the ground – as opposed to personal property, which is moveable.
Home as a Source
A comfortable house is a great source of happiness. It ranks immediately after health and a good conscience. (Sydney Smith)
You can tell much about a person or family by looking at their home; it is designed, decorated, maintained and organized according to their personal preferences. The artwork on the walls and the books on the shelves represent the interests and dreams of the family members. The home is the space where those dreams may be cultivated. A home and its contents reflect the inhabitants who live within its walls.
But what is in the heart of a homeowner? Dreams, hopes, children, family, friends, guests, education, healing, spiritual growth, wellness, love, retirement – and so much more. For many, the home itself is a dream come true as well as a place to dream about the future. We are finding that our clients are committed to both the permanence of their realty and to using their home as a source that serves their other goals and dreams.
The Home as a Source of Stability
The home is a source of energy, family, experience, and stability…
Life itself is an unpredictable journey that is always unfolding before us, day by day. While it is not realistic to presume that all of our experiences will be ecstatic, we can be sure that what we do experience is for our benefit and growth and is exactly what we need at the time it is experienced. The home, as a source of stability, is especially meaningful during difficult times and personal challenges. The feeling of coming home is something solid, permanent and stable. It is something we can count on.
The Home as a Source of Experiences and Growth:
The home is the source of new experiences and growth – and if we are fortunate, love. The great majority of one’s childhood is spent at home and in school. Afterwards, if the student goes away to college, they “come home” on vacations. Their home is the source of many of their childhood memories. A person’s future is unquestionably connected to their earlier growth and development – which normally occurs in large part in their home, usually around parents, siblings, pets, and often, friends and extended family.
The home can be the source of activity, fun, festivity, joy and life itself. Additionally, the home is a great source of information and knowledge. In the home we learn the most essential important skills: how to love, how to communicate, how to relate to others. It is the first place that we interact with others and develop long term relationships and bonds. A home can be a source of great security (or insecurity), depending upon one’s state of mind and heart, and one’s willingness to grow in the face of adversity and challenge.
Exposure to New Environments as Source:
When we visit the homes of relatives and friends, we often experience very different circumstances than we do in our own homes. We are introduced to new ways of living and different priorities. Some friends may live in a house filled with love, balance and material prosperity. This may be one’s first exposure to a healthy home environment. Children, especially, gravitate to their friend’s homes where they are welcomed and feel safe. The ability to welcome others in this manner is a source of joy.